It isn’t that our feelings guide our actions (feel happy and you will laugh). On the contrary, it is our actions that guide our emotions (laugh and you will feel happy). If you want a quality, act as if you already have it.
The As If Principle by Richard Wiseman
Richard Wiseman’s books 59 Seconds and The As If Principle seek to put to bed the self-help books with no scientific basis behind them. His books give practical, simple, and quick techniques to be better and feel better.
The premise of the As If Principle is to act your way into feeling well. I was told in one of my undergraduate classes at Winona State to “fake it till you make it” and this is a very similar concept. In fact, the meanings are identical. Fake it till you make it is means the same as acting as if. If you want to be happier, smile. Fake it till you make it. Act as if you are happy by smiling. Same side of the coin.
Everyone takes tests. How we respond to doing poorly on tests is an indicator into your future experiences. Think on this:
When bad things happen to depressed people, they tend to come up with explanations in which they take the blame, causing them to expect to fail again in the future and casting a dark cloud over every aspect of their lives. In contrast, those who are not depressed are far more likely to avoid personal shortcomings, expect the future to be bright, and prevent the failure from influencing other areas of life.
P.104, The As If Principle by Richard Wiseman
So you may to you yourself, “But I’m not depressed.” The point is if you ACT like a depressed person you will become depressed. This has real value! I can recall many moments in my childhood when I acted like this. I thought and acted my way into depression by acting like a depressed person. It’s CRAZY to think that we can do that. We have the power to act our ways into hell. We also have the power to act our way to happiness. Smile and you will be happier. This principle shows the power of the mind-body connection. Your mind is your body and your body is your mind.
How are you developing your mind-body connection?