“IF, like those with the growth mindset, you believe you can develop yourself, then you’re open to accurate information about your current abilities, even it it’s unflattering. What’s more, if you’re oriented toward learning, as they are, you need accurate information about your current abilities in order to learn effectively”
Carol S. Dweck
“We’ve always done it this way”
“I’ve always done it this way”
The mentality of “my way is the best way” or “we’ve always done it this way” is a fixed mindset. Sometimes, if you’re lucky, an unflattering appraisal of your abilities will be bestowed upon you. What’s your initial reaction? Probably defensive. That’s ok. What’s not ok is holding onto that feeling.
When people are given criticism it is easy to take it personally. Remember this, don’t take anything personally. If you haven’t read the 4 Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz you will learn more. Simply because you have done something a certain way for a long time doesn’t mean it’s the right way or the optimal way. If someone has more experience than you, listen! They can help you get better.
Be a white belt! Too often people are on the defensive, unwilling to yield to others experiences.
Be one of a growth mindset.
“Mindset change is not about picking up a few pointers here and there. It’s about seeing things in a new way. When people…change to a growth mindset, they change from a judge-and-be-judged framework to a learn-and-help-learn framework. Their commitment is to growth, and growth take plenty of time, effort, and mutual support.”
Carol S. Dweck